If you’re here looking for articles on finances, cribbage, or manufacturing reports…
Turn around and walk away – right now.
Because we’re talking about the OTHER kind of pegging.
The one that involves the bum.
WHAT’S PEGGING??
For those who haven’t come across the term yet, it’s the sexual practice where a female partner wears a strap-on dildo and penetrates a man up his bum.
Simple, yeah?
Not so much … because it scares the hell out of a lot of guys. Also because there are still ridiculous misconceptions about anything surrounding the ass.
Let’s clear up a few of those now.
- The anal area is FULL of nerve endings and can be pleasurable for any sex or orientation.
- Enjoying anal play has nothing to do with being gay or straight.
- Women have a g-spot, men have something similar. It’s called a p-spot (prostate).
- The anal canal itself is fairly clean. Poop mistakes usually only happen if your partner doesn’t bother going to the bathroom beforehand (and knew there was a “delivery” on standby).
- Anal sex can be just as pleasurable as other kinds of stimulation.
- Being pegged does not make someone less of a man. So ditch the machoism.
But would every man like it?
No.
Some are too freaked out to even think about it enough to RELAX – and relaxation is the KEY to pleasurable anal play.
ADVICE FOR BEGINNERS & CURIOUS
My submissive loved being pegged, so I’ve had enough experience to know the ins and outs of the process.
First, it’s no different from any other kind of anal sex. Your partner needs to be relaxed and the anus needs to be slowly stimulated and stretched out.
REMEMBER: He’s not going to be stretching it that much – we’re not talking German porn videos here.
Think of it this way, you have *cough* daily bowel movements that are of comparable girth.
Plus, the anus muscles will go back to normal after you’re done. So forget the “stretched out forever” myth/bullshit you heard.
- Try “anal trainers” if you’re having difficulty – they are butt plugs that start very thin and each one graduating in thickness.
- After trainers, you can move on to bigger models or vibrating butt plugs.
- Thinner dildos are also better for beginners or those who aren’t size kings.
I’ve already written a dedicated article for it – I strongly suggest reading it as a supplement to this guide.
USE LOTS OF LUBE!
The anus doesn’t get wet like a vagina and it will need lots of help.
And when I say lots, I mean:apply lube, insert, add more, insert again. Repeat. And probably repeat again. Whatever you think is enough, add more … and then more, and as you play … and more again.
Also, stay away from warming and cooling lubes. They might do more harm than good.
Get a lubricant that’s meant for anal sex (the anal environment as a different PH) and check if it’s water based or silicone.
- If it is water-based, you’re okay to go.
- If it’s silicone, make sure your dildo is NOT SILICONE.
IMPORTANT: Silicone disintegrates silicone = ruined toy.
GET A GOOD HARNESS
Don’t bother with those crappy, tiny harnesses. You need something that is going to fit you securely, without shifting around or coming undone – and therefore moving the dildo around in uncomfortable ways.
- The first picture (below) is an example of a good harness – different sized rings, leg plus hip straps, and adjustable
- The second picture is an example of a poor harness – straps are too thin, elastic, and it only fits that one dildo
Also, make sure the dildo base is wide enough it won’t slip through the harness ring.
When you’re ready to go, slowly insert the dildo and hold onto the base so you have more thrusting control and your man finds his comfort zone.
ONE FINAL NOTE
Many guides include “how to talk to your partner about (insert sexual act here)” but there’s already something similar in the anal guide … AND it doesn’t matter how much prep or advice you get, every couple’s conversation will be totally different.
The main thing is to be patient, non-judgmental, open, and caring. And if they give you a firm NO, then that’s your answer.
Don’t push things and respect their feelings.
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Any pegging enthusiasts out there who have harness or dildo preferences? Share in the comments!
