Monica L Shulman Popular 101 Extensive List Of Kinks And Fetishes

101 Extensive List Of Kinks And Fetishes


There are WAY more than 101 kinks and fetishes out there, but let’s look at some of them – for curiosity, for fun … for science.

Also, understand this list is a mixture of Kinks AND Fetishes (fetishes being something that isn’t necessarily sexual, but people get a degree of sexual arousal from it).

Ready to roll up your sleeves and get dirty?

  • 1950’s Fetish – roleplay of the traditional, American, nuclear family – can be practiced in reverse
  • 24/7 – a power exchange relationship that functions 24/7
  • Abduction Seduction – kidnapping someone but in a loving manner
  • Adult Baby – acting like an infant, wearing diapers and receiving care
  • Aliens – fantasy about having sex with aliens, often abduction and forced
  • Amazonian – wanting to get it on with really strong, authoritative women
  • Amputees – getting turned on by people with amputations
  • Anal Sex – some people just like it in the butt
  • Armpits – arousal or enjoyment from smelling, licking, or kissing armpits
  • Autofellatio – a guy giving a blowjob to himself
  • Bare-backing – sex without a condom (E)
  • Bathroom Control – deciding when someone can use the restroom
  • Biting – gimme those teeth

Can you guess what fetish “Nyotaimori” is? 

Hint: Food – Find out later in the list.

  • Blood Choking – making someone pass out by restricting blood flow to the brain (E)
  • Blood Play – sexual arousal from seeing, letting, or playing with blood. Has many other subgenres like vampirism (E)
  • Body Painting – painting bodies, treating the skin as a human canvas
  • Bondage – restraining or restricting movement
  • Branding – marking the skin with a heated object to form an image, word, or symbol (E)
  • Breast or Nipple Torture – the equivalent to CBT, causing pain to the breasts and nipples (E)
  • Breath Play – coking by restricting breathing (E)
  • Caning – stroking someone with a cane
  • CBT – cock and ball torture – causing pain to male genitalia (E)
  • Chasity – no sex for you
  • Clothed Sex – sex with clothes on, so the fabric goes inside you
  • Collaring – wearing a collar to show you are a submissive. Can be as serious as a wedding ring in some BDSM circles
  • Consensual Non-consent – also known as rape play (still consensual)
  • Corseting/Tight-lacing – shape changing of the body through corsetry, sometimes includes breath-play
Different sytles of corsets
  • Cross Dressing – wearing another “gender’s” clothing
  • Culcockery – when a male partner loves watching his woman have sex with another man – a form of humiliation
  • Cupping – heating up a specialized round cup that creates a vacuum on the skin – often used in Chinese therapy
  • Dacryphilia – turned on by tears/crying
  • Double Penetration – one penis in the vagina, another in the ass
  • Electric Play – the “safest” way is by using a TENS unit (E)
  • Enema – douching or cleaning the anal cavity or rectum
  • Exhibitionism – enjoying when other people watch you having sex
  • Face Fucking – blowjob where the man roughly fucks someone’s mouth
  • Facial Hair – you like beards and mustaches etc.
  • Figging – inserting a peeled piece of fresh ginger into the anus
  • Fire Play – play that involves fire (E)
  • Fisting – using a fist to penetrate the vagina or anus
  • Flogging – striking someone with a multi-tailed whip
  • Food Play – using food during sex
  • Foot Fetish – getting turned on by feet
  • Forced Feeding – feeding someone so they gain weight
  • Furry Yiff – dressing up in furry animal costumes itself isn’t considered sexual, but if you DO have sex while in costume, it’s not just “furry”
Two people dressed in furry costumes
  • Garters and Stocking – many men get turned on seeing a woman in this (now) uncommon underwear
  • Gerontophilia – attraction to someone in a much older age group
  • Golden Showers – peeing one someone (E)
  • Graphoerotica – writing words on someone’s body
  • Gun Play – arousal from use or threat of a firearm (E)
  • Hand Fetish – well, people like feet, why not hands?
  • Hermaphrodites – fetish for someone with male and female body parts
  • Human Furniture – where someone loves to act like a piece of furniture
  • Impact Play – striking someone with various objects to create a “sting” or “thud” sensation
  • Impregnation – getting someone pregnant, typically from a man’s point of view (E)
  • Intelligence Fetish – sexual arousal from intellectually stimulating conversation or debates
  • Knife Play – play using knives or sharp objects. Can be sensory or a “threat” roleplay (E)
  • Knismolagnia – arousal through tickling
  • Lactation – when you get off on women with milk-producing breasts (usually drinking)
  • Long Hair – turned on by long, beautiful locks
  • Loud Sex – yep, getting off knowing other people can hear you having sex
  • Medical Play – play or scene using medical equipment/tools (E)
  • Mummification – wrapping someone entirely to limit movement
Woman in pink latex vaccume bed

Mummification, sleepsacks, and vacuum beds can have a bit of a crossover.

  • Needle Play – involves the use or threat of needles (E)
  • Nyotaimori – eating sushi off a person’s body
  • Orgasm Control – controlling someone’s orgasms through signals and cues (different from denial
  • Orgasm Denial – not allowing someone to have an orgasm for a certain period of time
  • Orgies – lots and lots of sex with lots and lots of people
  • Pecattiphilia – fetish for sinning by breaking religious rules
  • Play Piercing – temporary piercing the flesh for aesthetic or sensory reactions (E)
  • Pony Play – using someone as a pony (including riding). Can include costumes
  • Pregnancy Fetish – usually from males, thought to be from hormonal reactions
  • Puppy Play – treating someone like (or pretending to be) a dog
  • PVC – to love wearing PVC clothing
  • Queening – also called face-sitting. Oral sex with the woman on top (or just sitting on top without oral sex)
  • Rough Sex – includes biting, scratching, power play etc.
  • Rubber – to love wearing rubber clothing
  • Scat Play – play with fecal matter (E)
  • Sensation Play – running different materials across the skin to create different sensations. Eg. silk, burlap, brush bristles
  • Sensory Deprivation – taking away various senses, like sight with a blindfold, plug for the ears etc.
  • Sex Toys – a general love of using sex toys, but people can have a specific love for one kind of toy (eg. butt plugs)
Collection of various sex toys
  • Shibari – Japanese rope bondage
  • Sleepsack Fetish – comes from an arousal from closed spaces. The sub gets into a sleepsack, bag, or box etc.
  • Sounding – inserting metal rods into the urethral openings (originally a medical term) (E)
  • Spanking – tap dat ass
  • Swinging – committed couples consensually indulging in sex with other couples
  • Tattoos – some like giving them, some like getting them (E)
  • Texting and Audio – Audiobooks, messages etc.
  • Trampling – being under someone’s foot/shoe. Can be related to foot fetish, but not necessarily
  • Transformation – the fetish for transforming or changing people into other people, objects, or creatures – popular in Japanese hentai
  • Uniform Fetish – pretty straightforward, you get turned on by uniforms
  • Vacuum Bed – a device that is two sheets of latex with the air sucked out and the person inside breathing through a tube. A form of sensory deprivation (E)
  • Vampire – role-playing as a vampire (or victim of one). Can, but doesn’t have to, include bloodplay
  • Voyeurism – watching other people have sex
  • Watersports – playing with urine (E)
  • Wax Play – play with dripping hot wax on the skin
  • Werewolf Play – same as vampire play but with werewolves
  • Wrestling – play fighting for body contact and power control
  • Xenophilia – intense attraction towards people from other cultures or strangers
  • Yaoi – a fetish for male-on-male sexuality in anime, manga, or fan fiction. Aimed at a female audience, not a gay male (Bara)
  • Zentai – a fetish to wear full lycra bodysuits

So, how many of these kinks made it on your “been-there-done-that” list? Share in the comments your favorite.